I had a conversation with a 20-something yoga student after class. She has a “good” engineering job with a Fortune 500 company, and she teaches yoga. We be all kindred like that.
“I’m not getting much out of my job anymore,” she said. Hmm.
You know those fears churches have that doing yoga will turn you? They’re on to something. Corporate America, listen up: Beware the All-powerful Yoga. When your top performers get into it, they will start to see things differently. It’s a pretty obvious byproduct of an awareness practice. Yeah – you get aware.
Aware of what? Of what we’re doing that’s Real. Think of Real like the ultimate good – it’s that seed, that common, shared, non-subjective, objective (for complete redundancy) good we can all agree on that doesn’t have a bunch of shit layered over it that is often far removed from the seed. For instance: you might be of one religious affiliation, I might be of another. Or none. The real question is, why do we believe in our religion or secular philosophy? Do we strongly identify with the shit layered on it, or is it more like this: We believe it because we are certain that it is what humanity really needs. We believe it can take care of humanity. All of us. This is what we all want. (Disclaimer/Reclaimer #4: Yes, despite all my assy ‘tude, I believe that this is human nature.)
Religion, then, is an application – a subjective one – of the objective good. What matters is the objective good. This is what I call the Real. And this is what yogis or anyone on a path of awareness-building gets really good at seeing.
So, my friend was letting go of a subjective application of good. We’re all raised knowing that success is good, right? And success is defined by contrast – having a “better” job than the status quo, more money more house, more car. Contrast can be a good motivator, but it has one negative side effect – it damns a good chunk of humanity. It requires a separating worldview. So, success as known in this culture, that good, good thing, is then, having more than the next guy. And, everyone can be successful. Wait – all of us? Holy paradox.
Did you know the Pope is commie? Yeah. He recently condemned “trickle-down theories.”
But wait – what the hell do you mean, “a commie?” I know plenty of people who would take that as a commie-plement. Fuck it – trickle-down, trickle-up – let’s drop the discrete categorizing. (My engineering brain would like to remind you that discrete is “A or B,” and continuous is “A through B.”) Open this shit up. Don’t pretend all your values fall in line with one subjective application of good.
So, should my friend quit her job?
Come on. We yoga fools ain’t that stupid. Two things to remember here.
1) You can’t make change inside when you’re on the outside. Duh.
Be an inside fighter. It is so hard to keep on keepin’ on. But if all the managers across the country had the kinda skillz yogic study can provide – from communication to motivation to creativity to productivity – the US of A would seriously rock some fucking Real.
2) Eating – it’s not optional.
There’s a fallacy out there that our livelihood – how we make money – must come from our passion. Well, sometimes it won’t. We can use our livelihood as a means – to either support our pursuit of passion outside of work, or as a step to making it possible in the future to make a livelihood out of our passion. Yogis call the means artha. We can’t all give our culture the amazing shit we got to offer when they won’t pay us enough to eat enough (to shit). So, we gotta get comfortable with leaving our future uncomfortably open. We stay curious. We work and we create and we look for connections in what we do. What’s humanity calling for from you? Where, and how? Do this Real thing: stay curious about how it’s all coming together.
Way to say it, Mary! Glad I can take part of your no-bull-awesomeness from far away. Sent this to a few friends working jobs for which they have no passion. Thanks for the advice!
Glad to deliver. And glad to connect with you. And glad this may be able to help a few of your peeps out. And glad – just plain, pure, all-out glad – you walked in Field of Yoga’s door one day. You are a change-maker of infinite proportions and I love witnessing it transpire.
“So, we gotta get comfortable with leaving our future uncomfortably open. We stay curious. We work and we create and we look for connections in what we do.”
I really love this part. The job I have now I didn’t go out looking for, it found me! And how it is going to play out, who knows! One thing I do love is how working on Main St. has really given me many opportunities to forge new connections with people I would have never (maybe) crossed paths with otherwise. Love the community that is growing there!
Ah. Sweet, sweet connection. To humanity. Man. That’s the shit, ain’t it?
I’ve always said the key is connection. Choose what allows for the most connection, the least separation. Like in good ol’ Yoga Learning Course: capital letter “S” Self chooses this way – seeking connection. If it’s in charge, it’ll keep small letter “s” self from doing separating things. Congratulations. Cap Self is in charge!
You’ve hit the nail on the head with point number one. I’ve had a similar conversation with another yogi about this very thing- it seems to be a (small) consolation to continue to “be the change” when we are disenfranchised inside the Big C(orporation) that no longer fulfills our passion or is entirely aligned with our values.
I’m totally with you on point number two, that we sometimes have to do things that seemingly do not fuel the soul. I believe it was Karina that spoke about doing such tasks joyfully as they serve our families and community. Sure, working for the Big C blows. But it is an act of service that allows us to survive, provide for our families, donate resources to our community, and perhaps fund our escape from the Big C.
Should your yogi friend leave the Big C? My response is perhaps. If the internal voice continues to tell her that she should consider other possibilities I say follow that. I feel our society is far too wrapped up “the degree” and “the career” and the need for external validation. That internal validation is where the real value lies.
Being in a crossroad like this yogi is a prime opportunity to really determine what is important to us: corporate prestige, more-than-we-need cars and homes, vacations, retirement, health insurance, creative expression, ethics, being home with our children, and so on. I would say that some of these things are needs and important-to-us-wants- and those true priorities vary somewhat person-to-person. But what is fueling the body and spirit and what is fueling the ego? What can be let go of if it allows this yogi to live a life more fulfilled? We can “eat–and shit” on far less resources than we are used to consuming.
Leaving the Big C was one of the best decisions of my life. I don’t have a fancy house or a sexy car but I’m free! And I have a job that makes me feel good on the inside. Is it the decision for everyone? No. But if she keeps the possibilities open like you suggest she might find that a opportunity will come along that will allow her to feel fulfilled AND fed. Her eyes are open- she will see it now as it unfolds.
And all that stuff about religion- I’m not going there tonight. 😉 But I will say I’m happy the world has a commie-pope. 🙂
I love your contribution to this – yes, most of us can eat-and-shit on much less. What I want to make clear is that this should never start with quitting one’s livelihood. Start the other stuff first. While working that corporate job, do what you love and be fed by that. Naturally, organically, you will begin to feel that you don’t need as much of the other things you’ve been feeding on. Ah. Then it is coming together. Not through forcing ourselves into an insecure place “for our own good,” but through action on behalf of ourselves until we believe the direction we’re going is not only safe, but inevitable.
Agreed! “through action on behalf of ourselves”- those are beautiful words.
Now let’s talk religion… 😮
I don’t remember telling you you could speak directly to me, Mary! me and soooooo many others. Am tempted to pass this on to key people within the corporate entity in which my yogi butt resides 8 plus hours out of the day…maybe I will. Fighting from the inside is of course the ideal…opening one mind at a time to ‘yogic’…..ahhhhh, it definitely feels like a David and Goliath sort of battle tho…strong yogi body and sharp yogi mind, indomitable yogi spirit would be all the armor needed 🙂 and maybe a not so yogic, hi-tech sling shot..:)
Indeed. Operative word: fighting from the inside. It’s a fight and it cannot be sustained indefinitely.
The action that you take on behalf of your passion is not optional. Your passion must come through eventually either in your livelihood or in a significant way outside of your livelihood. “In your livelihood” can mean that you are able to make enough change in your immediate work environment to contribute from your passion, and have that contribution legitimately valued. It can also mean that you leave your current livelihood for one where this is possible. But it all starts with acting on your passion outside of your livelihood. Without expectation of it going in any of these three directions – outside of job, in current job, or in new job. (After using it 50 times, I just realized what a misnomer “livelihood” is.)
this is such a great blog and the responses are stimulating and so helpful. I made a point to come out and read it all again and am glad I did. All the responses resonate with me and add to the inspiration that keeps me moving forward.
Mary, an unexpected delight of blogging: the opportunity to directly engage with people who are ready to venture into a place that seems risky. 😉 I love hearing what everyone has to say, and responding is often like doing another blog post for me.
Soon, though, more people will find this blog, and not everyone will have made their way through the layers of shit they have piled on the objective good. They won’t be able to see this for what it is – a more objective, Real way of making choices in life. (It doesn’t happen in a day. Or a year. It’s a skill that takes lots of time and intentional effort to develop.) These inevitable visitors will judge me as mean. Angry. Uncaring. Anti-[insert religion here]. Petty. Bitchy. All kinds of things that this very worldview, ironically, keeps us from becoming.
I think I will just buy fuckinghereticalbitch.com right now.
WORD: “There’s a fallacy out there that our livelihood – how we make money – must come from our passion. Well, sometimes it won’t. We can use our livelihood as a means – to either support our pursuit of passion outside of work, or as a step to making it possible in the future to make a livelihood out of our passion. Yogis call the means artha. We can’t all give our culture the amazing shit we got to offer when they won’t pay us enough to eat enough (to shit). So, we gotta get comfortable with leaving our future uncomfortably open. We stay curious. We work and we create and we look for connections in what we do. What’s humanity calling for from you? Where, and how? Do this Real thing: stay curious about how it’s all coming together.” –I’ve been telling myself this for the past couple of years. I’m doing what I have to do as a means to an end. Or beginning? Even if I’m pinning images that inspire me to a board on Pinterest, I am focusing on something related to my creative work. Any time I doodle or work in my art journal, I am playing, exploring, creating, and (I hope) manifesting. I know it will take time, and that when I go back to work next week I will get bogged down deadlines, due dates, and grading all those (damn) papers–but, as unsatisfying as my employment position is, I recognize that it is driving me to explore my creativity and make more art. And, so, for that I am grateful. Thanks for blogging, beautiful.
You got it. Great points about how actions that are seemingly non-productive when viewed from one culturally-limited perspective may actually be intrinsic to shaping how life will look in our future.
I agree with this so much. Any time I am feeling unsatisfied with work or other aspects of my life, I notice myself trying new things or working on more creative pursuits in my free time. I keep trying to stay open (thanks always for the reminder, Mary) and aware and let these things drive me instead of letting them frustrate me.
Mary, I really appreciate you blogging about this topic; I’ve definitely struggled with feeling that I should be finding my passion because I have the freedom and health and opportunity to do so while having no idea where to start or what that would look like.
Gillian! I am just re-reading this blog now, and finding your comment for the first time. I think there is a reason for this. I am the one now opening to the advice in this blog, and I can now publicly state – without it being a risk to your job (because it’s a FORMER job!) – HEY EVERYONE this was inspired by GILLIAN!
And now: The places you have gone! The daring directions that you invited in and took on when you stayed open! The potent living you have lived out – and continue to live out!
We def have to catch up when I’m in Madison. ❤️
“Beliefs are involuntary. Nothing voluntary is either meritorious or condemnable. A man cannot be considered greater or worse for his beliefs.”
– Percy Bysshe Shelley